Your Selfish Life

I never imagined myself being surrounded by such successful people. I guess in a sense, you're constantly surrounded by successful people without even knowing it. What defines someone as "successful"? Is it maybe the way they dress? or the way they carry themselves? I know successful people who live in sweatpants all day. I also know successful people who wear suits every day - and those who dress to pretend to be successful.

It's amazing how physical identity is a main role in how you percieve someone. I'm going to come right out and say it, I am pretty successful. I measure that in what I have been able to accomplish with my given years on this Earth, and how comfortable I am to live in my adopted lifestyle. I used to be a low-maintenance gal who never knew how to slap on a good contour or dress herself in a stylish manner. Did that make me less successful then? I don't think so. Even at the mere age of 19, I had already accomplished a lot in my career alone.

You see, when you surround yourself with the people you aspire to live lavishly,  you adapt those wants/needs. You could begin to subconsciously adjust your life so you can live THAT kind of life. The American dream is to become rich and wealthy in happiness and money, right? It's a simple concept.

I make an effort to have conversations with the successful people in my life. Not to mooch off their ideas, but to take inspiration and advice. Listening is the highest quality you can have, in my opinion. Because quite honestly, everyone wants to be heard. People like to talk about themselves. Yes- you do too. It doesn't make you shallow (to an extent). So take that as an advantage on your part, and listen to what people have to say. Even the stupidest statements can teach you something. - Don't do what this person did because clearly it didn't work for them.

I have a selfish approach towards life- In a way where I believe it's my life, you're just living in it. Everyone in your life has some sort of role, and vice versa. In the end, we are all looking out for the better of ourselves. No matter how many charities you volunteer for and people you try to please. I want to be able to give back to my community, my church, my loved ones. To do so, you have to take care of yourself. You have to work hard and make money. Call me shallow for saying this but, MONEY RULES THE WORLD. Sorry about  it. It's the truth. Without money, I am unable to give to my church. Without money, I am unable to give the people in my life; my company, my time, and my support.

Really, think about it. If you do not make enough income to pay for your bills and other life expenses, how do you expect to be able to take off a day of work to spend time with your family or go out with your friends. You cannot, because you have to work to provide for your well-being.
"Money doesn't give you happiness" - Yes, THAT IS CORRECT. But what you are able to do with your money will bring you happiness. You really have to think outside of the box on this statement and disregard the monetary value of money. Having the flexibility to live a life = happiness.

I'm a workaholic because I love myself and the people in my life. From my sisters and closest friends to the woman who sits 3 rows behind from me in church. Because I'm a workaholic, I am able to fly anywhere I want to in the world and afford nice things IF I wanted to. I've explained previously that I am not a materialistic person. I've never been really into high end name brands. Like, come on, I shop at Forever 21, ok. I'm a bargain shopper when it comes to flights and dinners. I probably can afford it, yeah, but just because I can afford it doesn't mean I have to force myself to like something I wasn't really fond of before the money.

There is not a day that goes by when I am not extremely grateful. And my life doesn't even compare to half the population of the world, in retrospect. But it's the greatest life that I have lived. Every year, is the best year of my life. That's how I measure self growth, self love, and wealth. We tend to look out for others, maybe a little too much. Where we are forgetting to look out for the most important person; your damn self. I have a selfish approach towards life, but I am not a bad person. I'm very humbling and humane. Does calling myself humble, make me humble? I like to take a step back and view myself as an outsider. If you don't see yourself as the qualities you wish to portray, how can you expect anyone else to.


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