The Work Over Everything Mentality
I frequently get the question, What’s my secret?! How is it that I am able to travel so much?
The truth is, it’s not easy. I am generally a pretty happy positive person. But there are days where I break down from the stress. Saying I have a lot on my plate is an understatement. I work 3 different jobs and go to school for over 12-18 hours straight every single day. On top of that, I fit in going to the gym daily, managing my social media platforms and doing homework/errands.
I actually hate taking days off. The only days I take off are when I’m flying out of town. And even that only lasts 1 to 2 days. I catch up on my sleep on long flights. I love traveling so much, but I love work more.
I choose work over everything in my life. It’s my number one priority. I would rather go into work than hangout with my friends. Insane, right?! It’s true. I’ve said it before, the people in my personal life have learned that this is just how I am. They understand that we are all trying to chase our own dreams and achieve goals. We are all busy. We all work too much. I just choose to take a more intense route of “chasing.”
There was a time in my life where I no longer loved what I did for a living. By the time I was 20, I was part of opening teams of 6 different new concept restaurants to my area. I remember thinking, “This is it. This is what I want to do forever.” I quickly learned 4 years later that the meaning of the word “forever” does not realistically exist. I also learned that it was okay - that I had changed my mind.
I’m the type of person who truly wants to do EVERYTHING. Some may say I’m indecisive? Maybe it’s the ADHD. I call it ‘mastering the art of multitasking.’ I want to do lots of things without having to give up on one for the other. I didn’t think it was possible either. Until I began basically doing it. And now, my business plan is actually built on just that. (something I won’t go into for obvious reasons :)
I am now in 3 different fields that I love so much. I live and breathe it. I appreciate my jobs and take every single one of my positions very seriously. There is a time and place to act a certain way, depending on which job I’m currently working that time. It works for me because it helps keep me balanced. I’m serious and strictly business in the office, fun and creative when I’m stirring up craft cocktails behind the bar, and in my networking/shooting mode when I’m on set.
But with all these happy moments and a beautiful life; being able to see different cities and the world, comes a cost. I couldn’t accept to admit it for a while, but dude, I Am Tired. I am stressed out, almost all the time. If I could sleep for 4 days straight, I would. There are days where I want to break down. And days that I actually do. But I never forget what I’m trying to achieve. So I let it all out, let myself have my little pity party, and I pick myself back up, and continue to work my ass off every day. It’s okay to have a moment. It’s probably not healthy to keep it bottled up anyway. I have blog posts explaining why stress is a fantastic thing to have here.
I realize that this isn’t the answer you wanted to hear. There really isn’t a “secret” to how I travel so much. I’m not saying you have to work 3 jobs and drive yourself crazy. Maybe put more effort into your work. There can never be a limit on that. Making excuses is just laziness. That “I’m too tired” attitude needs to go. It’s comical when people tell me that they are “too tired.” You’re preaching to the wrong person. I have very limited sleep because I’m too busy doing too much. And yet I still have an extreme energetic attitude, full of happiness and enthusiasm every day.
Realize your budget, save when ever you can, and start ‘paying yourself first.’ What’s the point in working your ass off day by day if you can’t enjoy this beautiful life? Some will argue and say that they will enjoy it once they have created a stable living, etc etc. Choose to live the life you want to live everyday. Stop waiting. There will never be “the right time” for anything.